Secure Attachment and Children: Promoting Connection while Letting Go of Pressure and Perfection
Secure attachment is certainly worth striving for, yet how do we aspire without feeling pressure to be perfect and get everything just right? Pressure and perfection are such pervasive themes among parents in our culture today that it can be hard not to assume even more pressure towards perfection and feel even more overwhelmed by bringing up this topic.
Breathing Room in Relationships
It’s not that there is a perfect formula or an exact art to healthy relationships, but there are some significant signposts along the way that can help you know you are moving in the right direction--towards differentiation of self, yet connectedness with others.
How Unspoken and Unmet Expectations Might Be Present in Your Relationships and What Might Help
And, yet, the resentment is there…under the surface—like a simmering cauldron. You are sad, hurt, disappointed, and/or angry. It may not be long until you feel yourself about to explode. And you feel this way often as it happens over and over again.
One source of this pattern of resentfulness and even anger may often be EXPECTATIONS.
The Benefits of Setting Healthy Boundaries
Even speaking and hearing the word “boundaries” brings up a host of reactions in many of us. In fact, many people are simply not comfortable with the term. If it feels awkward to even talk about setting boundaries, it can feel even more difficult to actually set boundaries. Not only can it feel uncomfortable, but for many of us it actually feels mean and heartless to even consider setting a boundary. In this way, the assertive action of setting boundaries often is interpreted as aggression.