At the deepest level, it is typically much less about equally dividing up tasks and so much more about feeling seen, heard, and valued. Feeling respected and giving respect are basic human needs and are often enhanced through effective communication as you work to advocate for what you need and also hear what your partner needs…

It’s not that there is a perfect formula or an exact art to healthy relationships, but there are some significant signposts along the way that can help you know you are moving in the right direction--towards differentiation of self, yet connectedness with others.