And once you can identify a core belief or two that might be driving a lot of your choices and your behavior, then when you're ready, you can begin to challenge those beliefs and work towards a reframe. So, for example, if my belief is that I need to please people at all times, I can work towards a more realistic understanding of relationships-- that it's not my job to please people at all times, but I can still value peacemaking and pleasing as something I generally bring to the table.

And what I really love is to elevate authenticity instead of perfectionism. Because you are a human being, and as a human being, how can you be real? And often being authentic is vulnerable, so sometimes we kind of shy away from that. And perfectionism feels kind of like a shield, like something we can hide behind…