…But it's just where do I have room to speak into the dynamic? Where can I create some breathing room so that I can say yes to my commitments and responsibilities in a more sustainable way, so that I have recovered between stressors, so that I have rested and been refueled?…Do I have white space or do I feel so rushed, hurried, programmed and scheduled that there's not even time to sit down or to think, or to reflect or to play or to rest? And is that how you want to live?…

And also, when we can name what we value the most, it can really help with kind of as a byproduct, really creating some openness and flexibility about the rest. So, for instance, if we value kindness the most in a friend or trustworthiness, then that's going to be a core value that really guides making and deepening friendships. And yet, when our core value is not what brand shoes someone has or what their hair looks like, then there is this openness to, you know, someone whose hair is different than yours, or who wears different kinds of shoes than your child does or than you do. And it's really a beautiful thing.