…But it's just where do I have room to speak into the dynamic? Where can I create some breathing room so that I can say yes to my commitments and responsibilities in a more sustainable way, so that I have recovered between stressors, so that I have rested and been refueled?…Do I have white space or do I feel so rushed, hurried, programmed and scheduled that there's not even time to sit down or to think, or to reflect or to play or to rest? And is that how you want to live?…

And once you can identify a core belief or two that might be driving a lot of your choices and your behavior, then when you're ready, you can begin to challenge those beliefs and work towards a reframe. So, for example, if my belief is that I need to please people at all times, I can work towards a more realistic understanding of relationships-- that it's not my job to please people at all times, but I can still value peacemaking and pleasing as something I generally bring to the table.